Friday, February 3, 2012

Friday’s Ramblings

“Then the man who had received the one talent came. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘I knew that you are a hard man, harvesting where you have not sown and gathering where you have not scattered seed. So I was afraid and went out and hid your talent in the ground. See, here is what belongs to you.’

“His master replied, ‘You wicked, lazy servant! So you knew that I harvest where I have not sown and gather where I have not scattered seed? Well then, you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest. Matthew 25:24-27

The word translated “interest” originally meant offspring. If nothing else, should we not produce offspring to give back to God?

We took the kids to eat pizza at the mall last night. Trace is two. He wanted to do lots of things.

He wanted to:

1. Push the button to close the van door. Yes, I allowed that.

2. Fix his own salad. No, I nixed that.

3. Sit in a certain chair. Yes, I allowed that.

4. Run around the restaurant. No, I nixed that.

5. Walk around the mall. Yes, I allowed that.

6. Play the pick-up-a-stuffed animal machine. Yes, I allowed that.

7. Wash his own hands by turning on the water, getting the soap, and, afterwards, getting his own paper towel. Yes, I allowed that.

8. Walk across the parking lot without holding my hand. No, I nixed that.

Trace wants to do everything for himself. And that’s a good thing. He likes to peel his own banana, open the wrapper to the cheese stick, get his own drink, etc.

I allow him to do as many of these things himself as possible.

To maintain my sanity, I made a rule when my oldest child was a toddler. This is it: Anything the child wants to do, let him do it as long as it is not seriously harmful to himself or others. Harmful acts include being rude, disrespectful, or destructive of property.

I read a blog post today that reinforces that which I already believe. The link is here: I don't want to raise a good child.

I hope you get a chance to read it. Our children do not have to be squished into a mold. Let’s allow our children to be who God made him/her to be.

That doesn’t mean to allow your child to run wild, be disrespectful, or infringe on others’ rights. However, it does mean to allow your child the freedom to explore and engage in activities that you, as the parent or grandparent, may not like.

My grandson wanted to:

1. . . . close the van door. I had to wait for him and watch him close it. It would have been faster to do it myself.

2. . . . sit in a certain chair. We had to move some chairs around and that was a little inconvenient to us.

3. . . . play on the machine. I knew he wouldn’t win, and it would be a waste of money and time. I was tired and wanted to get home. Yet, I put my own needs aside to allow him to play.

4. . . . wash his own hands. I had to pick him up for him to reach the faucet, soap dispenser, and towel dispenser. It would have been easier to wet a towel and wipe his hands.

From a selfish point of view, I would not have allowed him to do any of these things. It would have been easier and faster for me to do them myself.

Parenthood and grandparenthood is not about the fast, easy way. It will often be messy, tiring, and time consuming. Yet, when our children or grandchildren grow into godly adults, it will all be worth it.

Our “offspring” can be released to God.

Let’s refuse to bury the talent!


  1. You are right, Sheila. One of the hardest things for parents and grandparents is not pushing for our children and grandchildren to do everything our way, instead letting them choose their own path without harming themselves or others. Very good point, and well illustrated with examples. As women, we often do the same thing with our husbands when they offer to help with the housework or cooking. We want it done our way. I know some who go behind their husbands and re-do everything, and then wonder why their spouse refuses to help. Same goes with children. We need to re-evaluate our notions of what is acceptable and what is not. Great post, Sheila, as always.

  2. Thanks, Marie! And so true about husbands. It may not be the "right" way, but if it gets done, great!

    Appreciate you!


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