Monday, August 12, 2013

Relationships, Disappointments, and Embarrassment

Most of us love the Andy Griffith shows. In “Opie’s Charity” we have an example of a child embarrassing a parent. Opie gives only three cents to a charity fundraiser. Andy becomes angry after he asks why, and Opie explains that he is saving up his money to buy a present for his girlfriend. (And this, THIS, is what Jesus meant by not judging. Later we find he has a good reason to give his girlfriend a present.)

Here’s the entire plot: When the town do-gooder, Annabelle Silby, informs Andy that Opie contributed only three cents to a fund raising drive, Andy attempts to teach Opie the importance of giving with hilarious results. Shortly after Andy's lecture he meets Tom Silby, Anabelle's husband, on the street. Andy rushes Tom into the office out of public view. Andy then explains to Tom that as far as he and the rest of Mayberry is concerned, Tom is dead. His wife had told everyone that he was hit by a taxi in Charlottesville. Tom reveals that he wasn't killed at all, but simply got enough of Anabelle's nagging and left her. Rather than admit she lost her husband, Anabelle pretended that Tom was killed and proceeded to have a funeral. After visiting his grave, Andy convinces Tom to go home to Anabelle and patch things up. Back at home, Andy tries again to convince Opie to give more than three cents to the children's fund. When Opie refuses, stating that he is saving his money to buy his girlfriend Charlotte something, Andy gives up and send him off to his room without supper. Aunt Bee then turns the tables on Andy, lecturing him about having the same foolish pride as Anabelle Silby. Andy sees the error of his ways and decides to let the issue drop. Opie then reveals he is saving his money to buy Charlotte a coat because her family is poor and cannot buy her a new one. Andy realizes that his own pride has got the best of him. ~'s_Charity

So, the parallel plot also shows embarrassment—this time between a husband and wife. Damage to relationships occurs when we hide our problems instead of openly dealing with them. Embarrassment comes from an inflated ego. This is why we are told in the Bible to humble ourselves before God. Humbleness leaves no room for embarrassment.

When we are disappointed and embarrassed by others, we often end up rejecting them. In this case, Andy sends Opie to his room without supper; Anabelle pretends Tom was killed. Rejection leads to feelings of worthlessness, and in many cases, the behavior only worsens.

Let me make this point very clearly—not being embarrassed or disappointed does not mean we allow misbehavior from our children or that we don’t work out problems with our spouses. It means we are open and honest. Our job as a parent is not to make sure our children reflect us in a good light. No, no, no. Our job as a parent is to raise our children to make correct choices, to train them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Nurture them. Even when they have a tantrum in the middle of the grocery store. Or, perhaps, especially.

from Keisha S Caldwell on Facebook

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